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During my work with clients either through Online Mindfulness Therapy Skype sessions or in the office, I find that one of the central problems most people have is that they do not know how to focus inwardly and create a quiet, safe space in which they can engage with their inner emotional suffering. We develop a plethora of secondary reactions of avoidance, resistance or plain resignation. We busy ourselves in activities, anything to avoid facing the inner reality of our anxiety or depression. We talk about our problems, analyze them, and try to fix things through will power and positive thinking, which are all fine in themselves, but only if they come out of a foundation of stillness and inner listening. The problem is that we do not take the time to cultivate this inner relationship, and that’s like trying to fix a problem without knowing all the facts, and that is never a good strategy. We need to learn the art of being still and completely present with the anxiety, depression, traumatic memory or other upset; in short we need to learn the art of listening within. Everyone knows the importance of listening without, to a friend or child needing our attention and support. Well this very same attitude is needed within if we want to bring about healing. This is the prime work of Mindfulness Meditation Therapy: learning to form a relationship based on listening, openness and being completely present with your emotions, and in therapy-teaching sessions, you will be taught how to do this in great detail.
Therapy begins the moment a client establishes a mindfulness-based relationship with his or her emotional reactions, and in fact therapy can almost be defined as the process of cultivating the art of inner listening until it becomes the natural response to suffering. Why is this so important? The attitude of listening and being totally present for our experience has many extraordinary effects, and all of them bring benefit. At the most fundamental level, listening is the process in which we stop reacting and start experiencing. This is what is described as the development of “presence,” and this is one of the chief characteristics of mindfulness: being fully present for whatever you are experiencing, without the interference of thinking or further reacting to what you are experiencing. In fact mindfulness can be described as “engaged-presence.” It is that quality of acute listening and openness to experience coupled by a willingness to engage and face our experience, including the painful and disagreeable thoughts and emotions.
You can purchase a copy of Dr Strong’s book ‘The Path of Mindfulness Meditation’ at Amazon.com, Amazon.ca and Amazon.co.uk and Barnes&Noble.com. A Kindle edition is also available.